Cancer, unfortunately, is a fairly common affliction. Chances are good that you’ll eventually know someone who’s fighting their way through the disease.
Avoid being that friend or family member who doesn’t come around or call when someone you know is dealing with serious illness.
Here are 8 Ways to Help Someone Who’s Fighting Cancer.
State, “I’m here to help you.” And mean it. Be definite and specific as a person with cancer needs people who will push forward and help them get the daily things done so they can rest and recuperate from chemotherapy and radiation treatments.
Say what you willBe specific. For example, say “I can pick up your kids from school on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays while you’re getting chemotherapy. Will that work for you?” or I can come over on Saturday and mow the lawn for you. Is that OK?”
Cook dinner for them and their family. No matter if you cook a frozen lasagna and buy a bag of salad and drop it off or cook a big pot of soup and take it over. Providing nourishment and pre-made meals for your cancer-fighting friend can be the most loving thing to do for them and their family members.
Take them to their medical appointments.Some of the scariest and tiresome parts of dealing with cancer is undergoing chemotherapy and the many medical appointments associated with cancer. Some appointments can take many hours and moral support is needed. It also helps family members who still have to work and can’t be available for every appointment.
Ask when is the best time to call. Keep in mind that your loved one who has cancer feels very tired and will be trying to nap and rejuvenate as much as possible. Make arrangements for when you’ll call so it won’t disturb them. You could also ask them to text or call you when they feel like talking.
Be sensitive and understanding. If you’ve ever needed to be aware of someone’s feelings, it’s when a friend is coping with cancer. Your friend might be feeling cranky and annoyed. Or they might be crying and depressed. Just listening is all that’s needed to lend support.
Stay positive & encouraging. Many people do survive cancer. Tell them how you’re proud of how they’re handling the whole thing. Complement their strength to do whatever is necessary to cope with their illness. The more positive energy you can bring, the better they will fare through their recovery.
Deal with your own feelings first. You might be feeling pretty devastated about the news that your loved one has cancer. Allow yourself to express your feelings with your spouse or another friend before you talk with your sick friend. It will help you focus more on how they’re feeling and what they’re going through so it’s not about you.
Do what you can to be a consistent, strong support to a loved one fighting cancer. You’ll be so glad you did.